Last Saturday morning, as my husband and I sat sipping our morning coffee, I lamented to him that we didn’t do a wide variety of fun things any more.
“But it’s winter,” he said. “The weather is too bad to do much of anything.”
I admitted that the weather wasn’t great for, say, camping in the woods. But I felt like we had gotten into a bad rut of simply spending our (very limited) free time together doing the same old, same old. I spend the vast majority of my free time running and blogging, which are both solitary activities, and he spends the vast majority of his free time watching movies by himself. But together, we simply don’t have a wide variety of hobbies.
“Well, what do you have in mind?” he asked.
“I dunno,” I replied honestly. “Anything! I’m not saying we need to spend 24/7 together going on grand adventures across the globe. Just more mini adventures here and there would be nice.”
And so, the idea occurred to me to create an Adventure Jar, a place to put in ideas for mini adventures (and I do mean mini!) to draw upon when we’re in a rut.
Later that day, I rummaged around for a large mason jar (y’all know I love me some mason jars), some chalk paint, a little burlap for decoration. The only thing I had to go buy was a little chalkboard luggage tag, to symbolize adventure.
A few coats of paint, a little snipping, and some hot gluing later, I had my Adventure Jar all ready to fill.
Next came the task of coming up with ideas of realistic mini adventures with which to fill it. Here’s what we’ve come up with so far:
- Do a crossword puzzle
- Go on a coffee date
- Camp out in the backyard
- Make s’mores in the fireplace
- Go on a hike
- Play a card game
- Invite friends over for an impromptu get-together
- Shoot around a basketball
- Play a match of tennis
- Go bowling
- Tour a local vineyard or brewery
Of course, your list of mini adventures might look different. Maybe you love ice skating and just haven’t gotten around to do it in forever. We both are terrible at skating! Or maybe you and your partner enjoy going to the cinema. Whatever it is, write down fun activities that you and your partner both enjoy, but either always forget to do or don’t make time to do.
My goal with the Adventure Jar is not just for us as a couple to get out of a rut, but also personally for my own mental health and well-being. I honestly get so caught up in my “serious” hobbies of running and blogging (which are literally like part time jobs for me in terms of the hours they eat up), that I often forget to do little frivolous things like a random crossword puzzle.
Tell me, what would be in your Mini Adventure Jar?
Until next time,