University sports aren’t exactly the first place I go looking for sage words of wisdom. Yet recently, after some big American football rivalry match-up (in which the historical loser lost once again), I came across the most wonderful quotation from the losing team about their David-and-Goliath rivalry:
“No matter how many titles they win, we will always live in their minds rent free.”
It was an accurate statement for this football rivalry: Even though, year after year, the dominant team continues to win titles and beat the lesser rival, the Goliath’s fans take to social media mocking the David’s fans, because they just can’t let go of being bothered by the losing team.
The notion of letting someone or something live rent free in my mind struck me as powerful. Your mind is real estate, limited and precious. You are the landlord, deciding who gets to reside in your mind, and who doesn’t make the cut. When you think about it like this, it really makes you realize how many wonderful, fruitful thoughts are crowded out of your mental real estate by things that shouldn’t be there.
For example, I can be really bad about obsessing over whether everyone likes me. If I even get so much of an inkling of a feeling that a new acquaintance doesn’t like me, I will spend hours of my time ruminating over the situation. Why isn’t she being friendly back to me? Is it something I said or did? What can I do to make this random, inconsequential person like me? In this situation, friends and loved ones will tell me just to drop it and let it be.
And they are right. There are so many more wonderful things that should be filling my mental real estate: Love for people, creative ideas for my blog, deep thoughts about life lessons I am learning, moments of meditation to clear my mind.
All of these things are excellent tenants of my mental real estate, and I really should work on evicting the cyclical negative thoughts that bear no fruit.
Tell me, who or what do you let occupy your mental real estate? Are there any tenants you want to evict?
Until next time,